Let’s start out with two things – first, something fun, and then move on to what put me on my soapbox today!
Did you know that redheads have more sex?! It’s true – there was a study by a scientist in Hamburg, Germany that found: “The sex lives of women with red hair were clearly more active than those with other hair color, with more partners and having sex more often than the average.”
This is actually validated by Chinese face reading. People with red hair are considered to be naturally more flirtatious than others! But it’s not necessarily with sexual intent. They’ll tend to flirt with men, women, kids, pets, flowers, birds in trees! It’s not about sex, it’s about the pure delight of connecting, exchanging a little spark with another being. But because they do it so much, they’re more likely to end up having more sexual encounters!
Now, before the office redhead gets pegged as the office sexpot, let me hasten to say that you can’t single out just one aspect of someone’s face and know everything there is to know about them. In fact, other features can diminish the influence of her red hair. Her flirtatiousness could be modified by a strong reserve shown in deep-set eyes, for instance. So, face reading is about how her features together reveal the unique choreography of her inner dance.
And yes, as some of you have noticed, I have red hair (that’s not me on the cover of my book)! And I have to admit my son has rolled his eyes more than once as I run up to compliment a tree on the wonderful job it’s done with its blossoms! As for any other kinds of encounters – no comment!
OK, now on to my soapbox. Let me explain what put me there.
Some people ask me if I ever get overwhelmed by being able to read people’s faces, seeing who they really are written so clearly in their features. I know what the thought behind the question is – ‘You must see awful things – negative thoughts, secrets you don’t want to know, problems they’re trying to conceal!’
And often people are nervous meeting me, thinking I can see everything that’s wrong with them. But this isn’t how it is at all. I think you are flat-out gorgeous.
I don’t see things that are “wrong” with you. What I see is your vital spirit expressed in your own unique design, and your heroic journey through life so far. I see the challenges you’ve had, the decisions you’ve made, the lessons you’ve learned and how that has all shaped you to be the person you are in this present moment. And I see the person you have the potential to become. It never fails to take my breath away.
If only you knew how gorgeous you really are.
I work with all different kinds of people, many of whom are so used to looking in the mirror and cringing. This includes a lot of baby boomer generation women – women who have shattered the ceiling for the women following behind them, who have done amazing work to successfully changing our culture forever.
When they were young, women were supposed to wear girdles and dresses, never to work outside of the home, and have no ambition aside from making sure they got married and had children. If a woman did have to work outside the home, there were only certain jobs she could get. There were many careers a woman could never hope to work in because there was no chance she’d be hired.
But these enlightened women were the reason the world has changed. They refused to abide by these limitations. They refused to dress the way they were told, or stay in the only professions open to women. It often took great courage to stand up for what they knew was right. They received enormous abuse and ridicule in many cases, if not outright aggression from others. Many people today have forgotten what women endured just over the past few decades so that they and their daughters and sons could have the lives they do today.
So why in the world was I recently sitting across from an accomplished, aware, powerful woman from this Baby Boomer generation, who had just gotten her third round of plastic surgery to remove more wrinkles from her face because “well, women are expected to do this in our culture, and I’m afraid I’d lose friends and business if I didn’t.”
So I guess the work isn’t quite done. Now, I don’t mean I think everyone who’s had plastic surgery has been wrong to do so. I have no place judging anyone for their choices. But I worry about those people who feel pressured to change their faces because of what other people think of them. At the base of that decision is the fear you won’t be loved if you don’t become what ‘they’ want you to be.
One way I can help is to let you know that there is a meaning to every feature, every wrinkle on your face. That big nose – if only you knew how important it’s been to what you’ve already achieved in life and why you need to keep it unchanged for the future! And there are some wrinkles that mean you’ve accomplished something wonderful or learned an important lesson! Erase one of those, and you’ve suffered a loss.
Wouldn’t it be amazing if everyone knew this! So instead of feeling enormous pressure to change, we could shine just as we are. Instead of judging another face as good or bad, we could look with love and acceptance at any face we encounter. I heard actress Charlize Theron say once that she believes our faces are like our family photo albums – we’d never want to throw away a photo – why would we want to get rid of proof of the life we’ve experienced, lessons learned, wisdom gained?
How would it be to be seen for who you really are and still be loved? To be loved because of what’s written on your face, not despite it.
So part of my intention is to use this profound knowledge about faces to start a new conversation about beauty in our culture. If someone knows what the language of their face is saying, they’d be much less likely to feel the need to change it! So, let’s continue the journey started generations ago, and open to even more expansive possibilities for what true beauty really is. Hello, Gorgeous.
Thanks for such a thoughtful article, Jean. I always tell people that I am proud of every wrinkle I have because each one of them represents an experience I have had in life – some good and others, well, educational! I feel for the younger women, and men, in today’s world who have been led to believe that they are their bodies and faces…and that these bodies and faces are not okay just as they are. So, yes, let’s support people in the beauty of being who they are! Life is about so much more than our appearance! And whatever appearance we have right now – it is perfect! Krysta Gibson
I’m new to face reading so your article was intriguing and makes good sense. Who would have thought one of the hardest challenges in life ‘is to love oneself, to reeeeeeeally love oneself, and not fake it’. Jeanne
This is the first time I’ve ever heard about this. I’m intrigued and want to learn more. Can’t wait for a workshop to come to New York.
Trisha
I just listened to the CD from your workshop at the Vegas I Can Do it Conference this morning (I attended but didn’t go to your session)…WOW!! This “ancient Chinese secret” really appealed to me. I can see so many amazing applications–I work with troubled adolescents and if they could only see how beautiful they are, just as they are, because of the unique things about their faces–how powerful!
I enjoyed your blog immensely as well.
My favorite thing I learned today was about the “Purpose Lines”–what validation that I have them, and now I have a new appreciation for those wrinkles. Thank you and God Bless you.
Jean, I saw a television program the other day about these people with horribly disfigured faces from different diseases and wonder what you make of this phenomenon. They look as if they are in a lot of pain. Also, there was another program about some people that had hair all over their faces, more than the “bearded lady” I heard of as a kid. Just wondering what your take on this is, spiritually speaking, besides the obvious physical cause. Thank you, Jean, we are really looking forward to meeting you in San Francisco!
Thanks, Kimberly – Yes, these are extreme examples indeed, of what can happen to people’s faces. Everything on the face has a meaning – it’s considered to be a reflection of the inner person. So it’d be inevitable that these extreme conditions would have an affect on how that person thinks, feels and behaves and how their life unfolds. But there’s no cookie cutter approach to this – you’d have to evaluate each face independently, to see what features are affected, and where any markings or disfigurations are in order to know their meaning. I’ve worked with people with these kinds of faces and the meanings are visible in their lives and personalities, physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Thanks again and looking forward to seeing you soon!
Hi Jean,
I’m curious….you have also said that if we want to change our lives, we can change the part of our face that corresponds to that part of our life. For example, if the corners of our mouth turns down (represents disappointment), we could consciously smile more and do whatever we can to have the mouth corners turn up again. Instinctively, this makes sense. However, plastic surgery seems NOT to make sense but I don’t know what the difference is. Can you enlighten me? Thanks!
Lani
I have never taken for granted my looks. I came under severe psoriasis on my face from not protecting myself in the sun…it has lessen over the years yet you can still see its remants…my beauty is still here, and has added its own flaws and personalities…but…its still very depressing at times. Certainly I don’t expect a response but another example of unintentional or other circumstance created affects on the face…
I really am interested in face reading and have believed that its true that you can see a soul in their face.
I am curious how the ancient Chinese knew anything at all about redheads.
Hello Jean,
I am fascinated by the asian culture and believe in what you say about faces. I am 18 years old and i have always been uncomfortable with my face. I have a round face with puffy cheecks like a chipmunk i also have acne and a big nose with a bump on the top. What can you tell me about my face, why is it like that? Im so unhappy with my face that i have considered plastic surgery which i might be getting soon.
i also wish you would give a work shop in Georgia people here would really like it.
Thank You
Thanks for this – Actually, my main message is that we should NOT try to change our faces, but instead, understand the messages they’re gifting us, and use them to come back into balance in our lives. As we regain balance, our faces change to reflect that inner shift. But yes, if you find your mouth is turning down, relaxing your mouth and creating a small smile has been shown to increase the endorphins in your body and make you start to feel more positive! This is creating an inner change, which is the only lasting one.
If you make an external change to your face, as in a procedure to remove a wrinkle, you still continue to make the expressions that made the wrinkle, and it will return. And of course not all wrinkles are bad – there are some wrinkles we’re SUPPOSED to get!
Yes, you’re right that often life circumstances create changes to our faces. Chinese face reading looks at these as being caused by an external source, but still meaning something about who we are and our inherent archetypal natures. This work provides an understanding that there are five natural archetypes which we have in our personalities, but that we all have a ‘home base’ or default setting for who we are. And that shows us our inherent strengths and challenges, physically, emotionally and spiritually. For instance, there is a pattern that will give someone the tendency to have skin problems such as psoriasis, and this can also provide valuable information about who this person is and how to navigate life in a balanced way. One of the things psoriasis says about you is that you’re exquisitely more aware and sensitive than many other people and this is both an enormous strength and talent, yet a difficult challenge as well. But you probably already knew that!
Very funny, and a great question! Yes, you’re right that there would have been no real redheads in ancient China! But the color red is associated with archetypal personality characteristics that reveal natural tendencies to think, feel and behave in certain ways. Red showing up in the complexion, for instance, is a sign of this personality. And red showing up in hair color shows some of the same pattern. Chinese face reading is a branch of Chinese Medicine – Ancient Chinese scientists really developed and refined a model of how all life on this planet works, over 3000 years of ‘research & development’, and these principles apply universally, not just in China.
Your wonderful cheeks show that you have a deeply caring nature and can be a fantastic friend! Depending on where they are plumpest, the Chinese might also say you have luck with money! Give yourself time with that nose – what the plastic surgeons may not tell you is that your nose grows faster than the rest of the features on your face. So right now it may look big to you, but in a few more years, the rest of your face will catch up with it! Your nose represents your potential for personal power in life, and in everyday life, your ability to pay attention to details, and create beautiful results with any project. You don’t want to diminish that!
Hello Jean,
I have enjoyed the information on your web site and I am planning to get your book. Do you have any plans to teach a workshop/conference in Atlanta, GA?
Thanks so much and i hope you enjoy my book. Yes, I’d love to bring a workshop to Atlanta! I usually don’t schedule a workshop in an area unless we can work with a local contact there to act as seminar director, to help spread the word so that as many people can find out about it as possible. I hope to do that in Atlanta in the future, so please stay tuned!
Very moving, Jean, thank you. I look forward to the day when I can continue my training with you, and carry the message. Much love and gratitude…
Hi jean,
First of all i have to say that i am very intrigued by the concept of face reading and i have clearly enjoyed your articles. But this question keeps coming up during discussions with friends and i was hoping that you can shed some light in this matter.
We all know that people from different continents tend to have different facial features. The chinese look different to people from the middle east and so on… So does this imply that people of same ethnicity tend to have similar characteristics? or that ppl from different ethnicities have differing characteristics?
While there are similarities in facial features among certain ethnicities and races, there are actually an enormously wide range of features even within these groups. Once you start looking, you see vast differences, both subtle and obvious. The similarities among faces do have meanings, and the cultures and values of countries or areas of the world do show up in the faces of their inhabitants when you know how to read them. It’s a fascinating study that can help explain why cultures place importance on certain things and why their perceptions of the rest of the world are what they are. This is something we talk about in the courses I teach – really interesting stuff! But it’s always most important to look at individual faces to understand their unique patterns that have much more depth and meaning than the country as a whole.
Hello Jean,
I got your book a couple of weeks ago, now I’m paying more attention to not only my face but of my loved ones, and strangers in general. Come right back home and go through your book again!
When you speak of your son rolling his eyes, I can just visualize my son doing the same thing. When we go to the store, he will ask me if I can go shopping without talking to strangers, well, hasn’t been able to be done just quit yet.
Thanks for the “face lift”, my joy lines are getting better each and every day.
God bless you!
Hi Jean,
I have a question as to how old a child has to be before the face will show you what is going on? There is a baby, not yet 1, who has gone through really hard times, one being shot, the other being kidnapped. He is back in loving arms, but i can’t think that this will not mark him some how. Would love to be able to do something for him now before he gets much older and has to deal with the unfinished business of his first year on earth.
Any suggestions would be most appreciated. I’m concerned about this child, and don’t find anything in your book that discusses very young children. Thanks and God bless!
I’m currently working on my next book, which will be about reading children’s faces, so your comment is very timely. Although of course a child’s face is not fully formed at birth, and continues to change throughout their development, there are things you can read right from birth. And as their features change as they grow, more and more information is revealed.
There are many ways to read a face – One thing you you can look do is at details such as markings, scars, spots, to gain an understanding of their life journey. If there is a marking on the top of this child’s left ear, for instance, it could reflect the stress he’s been through recently. But if you’ve read my book, you’ll remember there are five archetypal personality types that can be identified in everyone. We all have one as our home base, our ‘default setting’ which will define how we tend to perceive our life experiences, and how we’ll react to what happens to us. So being able to determine the main element in this child’s personality will help you understand how he will have dealt with this stress.
But the good news is that young children are remarkably resilient and what matters most is that he is loved loved loved and made to feel safe now. I’m so glad you are in his life and can try to contribute to helping him. I’d also advise taking a look at the faces of the people who are caring for him, as this may be more important – understanding the choices they’ll tend to make and how they’ll affect him! Thank you for your big heart.
Jean,
Love your message! It’s so positive and upbeat. I have to admit I was anxious to reveal my face. Your course was full of life changing information. You’re ability to share the information in a joyful and interesting way melted my apprehension before I realized it.
I’m so looking forward to your next course. There’s so much more I want to learn.
Oh by the way my eyebrow is growing back.
Thank you so very much
Arleen
Hi, Jean. I just attended the I Can Do It conference in Tampa. Wow, what an uncredible experience it was..so much energy that I had to go outside at times for a break. Of everyone I met and every workshop I attended, yours resonated with me the most. I believe that I have found another purpose in my life and want to pursue this further. You gave me my “Aha moment” in my life. I have several questions I’d like answered. First, I had a facelift 4 years after my divorce from my first husband. The main feature that I wanted changed was under my chin…I had never had what I call a neck and due to extreme weight loss I had a horrible “waddle” that aged my looks by at least 20 years. I was 47 at the time and had remarried a man 6 years my junior. I felt like a teenager and couldn’t reconcile my feelings and my looks. I went to a wonderful surgeon who was Chinese. (Now I know that he was definitely the right doctor as he said that he would give me a neck but the other areas he would do nothing drastic.) He wanted people to think I had done something with my hair, not my face and just look more rested and fresh. He didn’t do my eyes but pulled the skin on my temples just a bit so my eyes wouldn’t look downturned anymore. OK, the question is this…what, if anything, did creating a new shape neck (right under my chin) do? You said I had a very strong square chin and strong jaws and I have felt more powerful and upbeat since this surgery.
My next question relates to a possible new life path using face reading. Could this knowledge be useful to lawyers when they select juries? It came to me one night at the convention and seems to be a reasonable application for this. If so, I will need to study more in depth and will definitely need guidance as to putting myself out there as a business.
Thanks for an amazing experience and what you taught me I brought home and it is helping fix problems in my marriage that I thought were hopeless. Bless you.
I’m so thrilled that we connected at the conference – always such an amazing energy at Hay House conferences! And thank you for your kind words. I’m so glad it was valuable for you. This is such powerful work and I love to share it with people.
As for your questions, evaluating the effects of plastic surgery has to be done for each individual case, as each face is unique. For some people, changing the chin and jawline could have a detrimental effect, yet for others, beneficial. In your case it sounds like it’s been great for you and that’s wonderful to hear. The meanings of the chin and the jaw are too many to list here, but one way you probably benefited from this change was to have a fresh outlook on life and new ways to approach your goals.
I’ve had many attorneys attend my workshops and use face reading not only to choose juries, but to evaluate faces of judges, opposing counsel, and even co-workers to know their personalities and how best to anticipate their behavior and perceptions!
Thanks again for letting me know this work has touched you – I hope our paths cross again in person!
Hi – I would like to say thank you for an interesting post about a subject I have had an interest in for a while now. I have been looking in and reading the comments avidly so just wanted to express my gratitude for providing me with some very good reading material. I look forward to more, and taking a more active part in the discussions here, whilst picking up some knowledge too!!
You are a wonder! I feel great, terrific and wonderful after listening to your teleconference, your laugh is infectious, and your never judgmental!
I am working on finances so I can come to a workshop! Have fun in Chicago, hometown, then but remember to come back to crazy hot and cold Ca.! The beaches are waiting for your next walk, I’ll see to it you have a beautiful day for your walk!
God bless you always!